We finally got our books in the mail! What books, you may ask? Well, our books that we will be using to aid us in our premarital counseling sessions. Before you go shaking your head, or gasping. Yes, my fiancé and I have willing signed up for premarital counseling. We actually consider this a part of the wedding/marriage planning. I have it scheduled right in between picking out the linen and invitations (smile). It’s so funny to think when my fiancé Brandon told me his family asked him are we doing premarital counseling. He said “Liz, I told them, I thought everybody had premarital counseling”. I had to remind him, no honey not everybody does. Now, I don’t think we are better, smarter, or wiser than the next couple. We personally feel that in order to build a successful foundation we need to be equipped with the right tools. Now most may say, well you have been with Brandon six years now; you have been through hell and high water. What else is needed to determine your readiness for marriage? I believe that being with someone for any length of time is not a prerequisite for being ready to enter into a lifetime commitment. To enter into a lifetime commitment takes not only time, but thought, willingness from both parties, and communication.
Looking at the word of marriage it seems everyone has the answers for how to break up a marriage; it seems you have to go searching high a low to find out how to keep and maintain a successful marriage. Personally, I think it such a disservice to keep those answers and tools locked away. So in a couple of weeks, Brandon and I will begin our first session of premarital counseling. I am actually excited and interested in seeing what new things we will learn about each other. As well as new tools we will gain to help with conflict we may encounter and the overall building of our marriage.
Do you view premarital counseling as a positive part of wedding / marriage planning? Or is it truly based upon the individual couple whether or not they go forward with it?
Happy Planning
Elizabeth
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