We Did it….I’s Married Now!

After all the planning and stress of trying to have everything as close to perfect as possible, our wedding day went by in a flash. But in spite of the little setbacks it all came together nicely. Due to the rain during the week and that day, the ceremony was held indoors opposed to on the beautiful garden at the venue (Mayfair Farms). The room was one of my favorites and from what little I saw, looked nice w/the hydrangeas decorated arch and tool and bows draped the chairs of each side of the aisle.

Though my nerves and stomach were a total mess, I made it down the aisle without losing it after taking a deep breath. We did personal vows and I surprisingly got through them without crying but almost lost it when Bobby’s eyes teared as I spoke. I then had to hold back my tears when he spoke his vows. It was a beautiful and heartfelt moment. We also performed the broom-jumping ritual, which added a nice touch in sealing our union.

The cocktail hour was held outdoors on the patio as well as indoors. We were also able to take pictures outdoors on the outskirts of the lawn as we were told it was still too wet to go any further. We entered the reception after a video, which consisted of photos of each of us from childhood till now as well as interviews of us telling how we met, got engaged and our future plans. The rest of the evening went so fast it’s mostly a blur but I remember being pulled in every direction for everything from photos to traditional cake cutting and throwing the bouquet. I didn’t get to dance to any of my favorites I’d requested but did get one quick dance in before the night ended.

When the night was over we were both totally wiped out and crashed after having a quick drink with friends at the bar of the hotel (The Wilshire Grand).

The next morning we were off to Hawaii for our honeymoon. The long flight was welcomed as it gave us time to catch up on much needed sleep. Kauai and the resort (Grand Hyatt Kauai) were beautiful. We attended a luau and did helicopter and ATV (mud buggy) tours which were all great experiences. On our last full day we did the spa, which consisted of a couple’s massage, Jacuzzi, sauna and steam room.

We had a 7 hour layover in Honolulu on our flight back so visited Pearl Harbor. It was sad seeing where so many dedicated Americans lost their lives. We slept the entire flight home. It was good to come back to pictures from family and friends as well as comments/compliments on the wedding and everyone expressing how much they enjoyed themselves. Our main goal was met. Now we start our lives together as husband and wife.

I want to thank ForBlackWeddings.com for the opportunity to share my wedding planning experience and all the dedicated followers of the blog.

“The Mrs.”

Wedding & Honeymoon Photos

The Home Stretch

The wedding is only 3 days away and I’m trying to keep my nerves under control. I keep worrying about having all the small things done in time and not forgetting anything. To help ensure I don’t leave anything out I’ve been keeping a note pad by my bed and jotting things down as they come to mind, even in the middle of the night. So, needless to say I’m not getting as much sleep as I should. Thank God I’m only working 2 days this week.

I’ve completed my part of the seating and have Bobby working on his so keeps me from pondering over placing people I don’t know. A friend of mine who’s also an event planner offered to help out with some of the remaining task. I’m a hands on person and will still have to touch things to put my mind at ease but having her help does help me relax a little.

My goal is to have my bags packed for the honeymoon by Wednesday so I can have a little down time Thursday before rehearsal. I’m also planning a massage for Thursday afternoon to help me unwind and prepare for the big day. Overall, I’m trying to remain calm, believing that everything will fall into place and we will have a beautiful day.

Counting Down

Only 2 weeks till the big day. It’s coming fast but I’m ready to get it done. All the planning and drama has taken a toll on Bobby and I. No matter how many weddings you’ve attended or participated in, (I’ve had more than my share), you don’t truly understand the work and stress behind it until you’re planning your own. I’m sure compared to others, our experience might be minor but nonetheless one we’d like to put behind and enjoy our wedding day.

I went for my final fitting last night. It was exciting. Trying on my dress made it even more real knowing that next time I put it on it will be our wedding day. The adjustments were perfect so I just pray; I don’t lose any weight in the next couple weeks.

Though, I only have small things to complete I keep feeling like there’s so much to do in so little time. From programs to music and decoration details, it all adds up especially when juggling work and normal daily tasks. All I can do is just breathe and keep going.

Pam

Pam's Shower Pictures

My Bridal Shower

I had my bridal shower last weekend and what a beautiful day it was. I was lured to the location by one of my friends telling me, a couple months before, about a bridal expo she’d received an invite for. She added that they would have WE TV there for a bridezilla shoot and even put together a disclaimer form. A few other brides-to-be from work were also in on it by agreeing to respond to the email that went out as to whether or not they’d attend. I admit it was a good idea but, with my busy calendar, I’m booked every weekend except two so I knew the shower would have to be one of those days.

Though I wasn’t totally surprised it was exciting and great to see my family and friends that attended to show their love and support. The shower location was nice with a great view of the lake it’s set off from. The food was good and I received many of beautiful gifts. Also can’t forget the toilet paper gown game. We got to see everyone’s creative side and a few laughs at the same time. It was a small dose of what to expect on the wedding day – can’t wait.

Talk to you soon.

Pam

71 Days To Go!

Last night, I went for my first fitting and it was both exciting and scary realizing how close the big day is. But it’s also nice to know I’ll finally be “the bride” and not another bridesmaid which is nice but can be depressing when you’ve had more than your share. My sister and niece went along to see me in my dress. They had their fittings too. They loved their dresses and the shoes added a nice touch.

After contemplating which favors I liked best, I finally ordered my original choice tonight. Glad to have that checked off my list. Now if I can just get the invitations wrapped up. My goal is to start sending them out next week providing the printer can have them ready in time. That would also allow time to send to the “b list” guests without being too close to the RSVP date. Though I read that it’s ok to invite guests a week before or even the week of the wedding, I personally don’t agree with it and want to avoid it. There was also an article on how to let people know they’re not invited which I’ve had to do in the past few weeks, even a couple days ago. I try to smooth it over by reminding them of my large family and that costs add up quickly. I’ve also mentioned sharing the video and pictures. No matter what you say it’s not easy and not everyone seems to understand. But I hope no one takes it personal.

Talk to you soon.

Pam